My trip to La Jolla, CA

Last summer, I went to visit my sister Natalie in California. She lives in San Diego, which is as stereotypically California as it gets: hot sun, cool waves, lots of jean short shorts, and great Mexican food. My sister was in the second trimester of her pregnancy, and considering my background in reproductive health, she asked if I would come out to her house and take a look at her. What a thrill! It was a great excuse to see my beautiful sister, her wonderful husband Dan, and catch Dunne rays! The birds with one stone, if you ask me.

I traveled to San Diego in June, which is when it’s typically anywhere from 85-100 degrees outside, so it was quite a change from the climate I was used to.

Even the airport was nice! My sister was still at work, but Dan has a flexible schedule because he works from home as a web designer, so he was able to pick me up from the airport. Right as I was getting into the car, I twisted my ankle – badly! I couldn’t believe it! I was suppressed to play tennis with Dan, walk around the city, and do a bunch of other stuff (aside from assisting with my sister’s pregnancy, of course) but now it has to be called off. What a bummer!

Before I even had a chance to look around San Diego, I had a medical emergency. What a bummer!

Dan jumped up to the rescue, quickly looking up local doctors and San Diego urgent care clinics. He quickly found a private practice called the Perlman Clinic in La Jolla, just a few minutes from their house. Dan have then a call, agreed if they could book an appointment or walk in immediately, and started driving us there. On the way, he made small talk about how he had recently read about the expansion of urgent care facilities, and how they’re outpacing hospitals and other types of medical clinics because of their unique structure. I didn’t care, because I was in such pain! I would have accepted urgent care by phone if it were available 🙂

We pulled up their La Jolla location and he helped me limp inside. The receptionist jumped out of her chair and helped me sit down in a chair in the waiting area. My doctor, Monica Perlman, came out right away and led me into an exam room in a wheelchair.

My ankle was starting to swell by this point, and she could see that I was in a lot of pain.
She quickly applied an ice pack & started asking questions to understand how I hurt myself. She elevated my ankle and took a look at the swelling. She gave me ibuprofen to reduce both pain & swelling, and I started feeling better in about 10 minutes. She suggested that I use a product called an Aircast, which holds your ankle in place & reduces pressure on the joint, so that you can begin walking much sooner. I still limped out of the office, but I was feeling much better about the whole situation.
Throughout the experience at the urgent care center, Dr. Perlman was extremely polite and catered to my needs while providing excellent medical care. All in all, it was as pleasant an experience as possible, (considering the circumstances). Within about 30 minutes, I was back in the car and off to my sister’s house. Although it wasn’t a huge hospital like Scripps urgent care in San Diego , the Perlman Clinic was the perfect remedy in my time of need. Oddly enough, even though I came to San Diego to help my sister with her pregnancy, she ended up providing medical care to me!

Urgent Care vs Emergency Room

When it comes to urgent care, for pregnant women or anyone else, it’s important to get fast & compassionate care from a doctor you trust. When choosing an urgent care provider, make sure that the doctors there are highly trained in emergency medicine, and are (ideally) accredited as an urgent care facility. Accreditation is not mandatory, but shows that the clinic is willing to go above & beyond to have pride in their work. One of the most recognized bodies for accrediting urgent care facilities is the Urgent Care Association of America, and clinics must display excellence in 8 key areas, including patient care processes, the variety of care solutions provided, health record management, and others.
It’s important to note that if your condition is life-threatening, please proceed to the nearest emergency room! Urgent care facilities do not treat gunshot wounds, stabbings, serious head trauma, etc. Blue Cross Blue Shield wrote a great article on the differences between an emergency room & an urgent care facility.
Urgent care facilities can provide routine care such as vaccinations & physicals, all the way up to treating broken bones, colds, allergies, and much more. On a recent visit to San Diego, I had a terrible stomach ache. I was fortunate enough to be able to find a great urgent care clinic downtown, and they treated me quickly and with respect. I was out of there in no time, and back in the gas lamp district before dinner. It’s really important to be able to find a doctor that not only suits your situation but also is aligned with your personal expectations of what health care should be. Having a lot of experience in this area, I was really happy to find a great doctor that gave me the treatment I needed fast.
More and more, patients around the US are turning to urgent care clinics for fast medical care for symptoms that don’t require an emergency room. By no means am I suggesting that you avoid the ER, far from it, I’m simply suggesting that if you don’t need emergency treatment, a UC facility is often a great option.

Learn About Your Options!

Learn about the your options! It’s easy to get caught up in the moment and get flustered, but it’s YOUR body and you have the right to choose to have an abortion, adopt, or become a parent yourself. Learn about your options and make the informed choice!

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The best parents are those who are ready to become parents, in their life track, financially, and emotionally. That’s not to say that people who aren’t ready to be parents don’t become good parents, but it’s important to know what you’re signing up for! If you’re not yet ready, investigate your options to terminate your pregnancy safely.


If you’re not ready to terminate your pregnancy with an abortion, you may want to look to adoption. Parents who put their children up for adoption still go through a full term pregnancy, and give their child to a person or persons who are ready to become parents and provide a loving home.


If you’re prepared to bring a child into this world, and care for it emotionally and financially, you may want to become a parent.

Again, there is lots of information on all of your options available online and through local clinics. The more you know, the more confident you’ll be in your decision.

Amazing C-Section Story

I just read an inspiring story on that I felt I needed to share with my readers! You can read the full article here:

Her C-Section story comes from Diane Kirkland in Washington:


I was nearing two weeks overdue when we went for a checkup, hoping the doctor would finally find a softened cervix and some dilatation. Nothing! The baby was where she wanted to be and other than being emotional because it was the Friday before Mother’s Day and I had counted on having a reason other than our cats to celebrate, I was feeling great. We put together a plan to meet at the hospital on Monday morning to start the gel for induction and joked about going out on our boat and bouncing the baby out. Later that day, I was finishing lunch and making plans to go shopping when the doctor phoned, stating that she had conferred with others and wanted to know if I wanted to have a baby that night.

How do you answer the question, “Would you like to have a baby tonight?”

We arranged to check in to the hospital at 6:00 p.m. for an 8:00 p.m. c-section. While sitting in the lobby waiting for our room, we were like a couple going off for the weekend, giggling and cuddling while watching waiting room dramas unfold. We listened to conversations about friends screaming their lungs out due to contractions, and the woman whose family who had been there for three days while she was only dilated to 3 centimeters.

When we were called I almost skipped to our room. We met our amazing nursing staff that we would spend the next three days with, reviewed our birthing plan, talked with our doctor, and met the OB who would do the c-section. We joked with the OB that we hoped he had done his workout that day as we were expecting a 9-pounds-plus baby girl. While hooked to the monitor, I wrote in our daughter’s journal about what we were doing and watched my husband play with everything in the state-of-the-art room.

While being monitored the nurse came rushing in to see how I was handling the contractions. I had to laugh as I did not feel a thing. The time came to go to the surgery room, so I walked down the hall, met the surgery staff and jumped up on the operating table. They asked what music we would like if the current selection was not okay. Who would have thought?!? The only bad thing was that I felt like we were in an igloo it was so cold in the room.

The worst part of the whole thing was getting the sterilizing wash on my back before the anesthesia as it was so cool. They quickly brought me warm blankets to keep me snug. Keeping true to my entire pregnancy, I threw up the entire time in surgery. Picture my husband at my side in his space suit, holding a sick bag in one hand and a camera in the other. At 9:45 p.m., after lots of tugging her out, my doctor, with tears in her eyes, presented us with Charlotte Grace weighing in at 8 pounds, 3 ounces and 20 inches. All the nurses cheered the moment we all heard her cry and celebrated every moment with us. Upon arriving back to our room and having a bath/massage given to her by her Daddy and the nurse, Charlotte latched on and has continued to breastfeed like a champion. About two hours after getting back to our room we went for a little walk with her wrapped up in her rolling bassinet. We spent the entire night just staring at her. We felt like it was more than we could have ever asked for and not the sterile, unemotional c-section we had envisioned.

–Diane D., Kirkland, Washington

I love hearing empowering stories from women who have had positive experiences with C-sections, turbulent as they may be. As with many pregnancies, this certainly wasn’t easy (the poor girl was throwing up the whole time, even during surgery!), but it resulted in a happy & healthy 8 pound, 3 ounce baby girl. After many years working with pregnant women, I’ve seen success with water births, C-sections, natural births, no medication for pain, LOTS of medication for pain, and everything in between. At the end of the day, you need to do what’s right for you and what your doctor recommends, given the situation. I myself am the product of a C-section, and my mom doesn’t have a huge scar, didn’t have any complications with the birth, and generally speaking, had a very successful birth (it resulted in me, after all 🙂 ).

Unlike traditional births, C-sections give doctors and mothers the opportunity to know exactly when a baby will be born, cutting down on uncertainty, ambiguity, and anxiety. On the other side, some doctors are making the whole process seem a lot more like a facelift than the miracle of birth, spawning a craze called the “Victoria’s Secret” C-Section or the “C-Tuck”. In my opinion, mothers shouldn’t rush through this process and try to get in & out in a day, back on their feet the next day. It’s a process that’s evolved over millions of years, and we’re just getting the hang of it. Let’s not turn pregnancy & birth into something it’s not.